When it was down to the final months of wedding planning the decision of the rings came up. He had this old piggy bank that was as big as a toddler that his grandmother had given him and helped him fill when he was a child. He always knew he wanted to do something special with the money and since his grandmother had since passed it was more important to make sure that happened.Using it on our wedding bands seemed like the perfect plan.
So, one day I finally got around to cracking that bad boy open and started sorting change. This was a chore and it didn’t take me days but several weeks. Can you believe that I rolled enough change from that bank to actually completely pay for out rings. Insane, right? But it was worth it for the diamond encrusted gold band I wear and the matching gold band for him.
Then at the end of summer in 2010 my husband went to take out the boat. When he came home he realized that he no longer had his wedding band on. It had been an active morning and he had mowed the grass and fertilized the lawn. he was down at the river, and all over half the town.We spent days searching the yard and finally concluded he had to have lost it off the property.
For over a year now I have been telling him that I want him to replace his ring and he’s been blowing it off. It drives me nuts because had I lost my ring he would have expected me to have found a way to replace it immediately.
He on the other hand said if it’s so important to me then I should replace it. While I am completely against having to buy him a ring HE lost I looked into it and since the price of gold has risen to a ridiculous level that also means the price of his band has doubled. I had a hard enough time finding a way to pay for it at the original cost but twice that?
Then I saw a black tungsten ring on a website and it looked a lot like a wedding band. Since the price of gold had gone up so much I wanted to price point the mens tungsten wedding bands. I was so surprised to see how affordable they were! The price of one of these rings were just the price of the deposit I’d have to put on replacing his.
Since he doesn’t find it important to not lose his ring I’m not finding it important to match my ring this time around. I basically just want something on his finger for the next ‘boys night out’. I think that mens tungsten rings are definitely the way to go! If you’re looking for a more affordable route this is definitely a great option. You save money and still get a great looking ring!
Really though, don’t you think he should be buying his own replacement?
Yes, he should be buying a replacement. I should probably take my own advice too because I lost not one but two wedding bands plus the engagement ring. Ack.
Well is isn’t her money or his money, it is our money, so I would say you two should pick out a replacement ring together. My opinion
We don’t really break our money out in that way. While we each have separate accounts, we still look at all the money we bring into this house as shared money so it wouldn’t be one of us buying it and not the other. That being said, I can totally see your frustration. Since he lost it he should be replacing it with “his” money and since the bands you mentioned are really reasonably priced. I don’t see why he doesn’t., especially if it bothers you that he doesn’t wear one.
We don’t split our money out so that’s a non issue for us but as far as who would have to find the ring, order it and actually make the purchase transaction? That would be me. Hubby’s not a detailed kind of guy but I knew that when I married him.
Hmmm. We don’t split our money so I’m not sure on that part. However, I do think it should bother him without it! My husband says it feels like something is missing if he forgets to put it on. I guess I would just go get him one since it looks like he isn’t going to….. Good luck!
PS> My dad was the same way! He went without one for a couple years! So finally us KIDS got him one for his birthday! We found one at the jeweler for about $150. I can’t remember what it was made of but he’s had it for a few years now and it’s great!
I dunno. We don’t really split the money, but I am in charge of the “extra” when we do have it. Stuff we use for clothes, etc. So I probably would have bought him the ring, truthfully. He didn’t lose it out of malice – KWIM? So it would actually make a good anniversary or birthday or Christmas gift to buy him another one.
We don’t split our money either.
HOWEVER, I can beat this. My husband lost his band golfing. And didn’t tell me. I didn’t notice for 2 years. (And for my excuse, well, he lost it when I was pregnant with my son and you know how much sleep you don’t get with a newborn).
We ended up going back to the place where we bought his ring and got him a new one. Which I now regularly check for.
Hubby hasn’t had a ring in almost 2 years. He’s not concerned about replacing it because he can’t wear it at work the majority of the time anyway. I want him to replace it but if I wait until he does it, it’ll be … never?
I have to agree that he should have to do it…I don’t think that the rings have to match though…my husband likes gold and I like silver so we have always been mismatched in that department.
We split our money, and hubby would be in charge of replacing his ring if he lost it. He has a tungsten ring and loves it. He found the exact one he wanted at a large jewelry store for $399, but we went to a local jeweler who was able to get us the same ring for only $99 and they cleaned & reset my ring for free (I am the 4th generation to wear it). I always advise shopping locally 🙂
I think since it’s Christmas time, you could get him a ring with the money you were going to spend on him anyway. What better heart-felt gift than a wedding band? He’d probably love it. 🙂