Motherhood Monday #14 – Do me a favor? Watch your kid!

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On Saturday night the hubby and I went to the mall childless. We needed to grab a few things and the boys really hate clothes shopping. We’re in line at Old Navy and there are kids everywhere. Running, screaming, knocking stuff over. No one is watching them, no one cares. Seriously what is wrong with parents this day? Let’s get over the whole you need to learn to parent thing but seriously your kids shouldn’t effect my shopping experience. I shouldn’t have to watch my toes because a 5 year old boy is zipping his 6 month old sister around in her stroller without a parent in site. I shouldn’t have to help your daughter off the floor because she tripped and started crying. I also shouldn’t have to stop and tell the small little boy that eating lint stickers off the floor isn’t such a great idea.

I don’t know about you but when my kids go anywhere with me they are to be polite, respectful, and act like a normal human being. Gavin will generally walk with me holding my hand or stay close by. I took the boys and ran to Target last Sunday night for a few last minute school lunch stuff for while I was away and it was priceless while we stood in an isle barely hearing our own thoughts while this little boy just screamed for no apparent reason other then he wanted to be heard. The mom? She was on her cell phone. Standing about 5 feet away-probably so she could hear the other person. It was clearly a social call that was never ending.

What made this so priceless to me?
Gavin walking up to the little boy with his hands on his hips and a mad face. Yells “Be Quiet!” turns to me as I try not to bust out laughing, turns back now that the boy is stunned quiet and the mom is now looking over and Gavin says “You’re hurting my head. Stop that!” Then the Mom gives me a dirty look as Gavin turns back to me. Priceless. I love you kid.

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Motherhood Monday #13 Stupidity

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Now that Johnny is getting older I am being forced to stay on my toes more. He’s starting to get older and the reminders of what I did at that age just absolutely scare the bajeebies out of me! He will be 10 this year and I was that same age when I took my scooter (the kind with handlebars, those were cool then!) to the top of a curved hill. Went as fast as I could and a car came around the corner and I got scared and wiped out. I had road burn down the half of me when I got home to my mother. A year later took my bike down a hill at least a mile long and super steep. I got so fast that I lost control, flipped over the handle bars and got pretty beat up. Luckily someone saw me and came to my rescue. I had broken my hand and 3 fingers.
By the time I was 12-13 I had traded in my bike for waterfalls. I loved going down to several for a jump over the ledge. I had seen my father do it years previous and was told to never do the same. Ya, okay! I remember the first time I drove past 100. Or when my senior year a group of friends and I grabbed an air mattress and cookie pans and went sledding at 2am off a mountain side. The stupid stuff we do as we grow up. Before we realize the risks.
Does it make me a hypocrite to turn around to tell my kids NOT to do those things? Not to tell them that I have. I know times are different. I won’t let my kids even play on our street without me. They are allowed past a certain point on the driveaway. When I was 10 I was given $2 for walk to the store three blocks away. Things just seemed safer then.

What did you do that was incredibly dumb that you hope your kids never do?
(Keep it somewhat tasteful please)

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Jennifer

Motherhood Monday #12 Time Away

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I never spent much time away from my children until recently. It always seemed if you wanted to do something with me you had to do it with one of my children as well. My best friend is actually really good at this considering she still doesn’t have any children of her own.
Then a year and a half ago hubby and I were invited to a destination wedding and was part of the wedding party. It was a no kids wedding and required us to go away for five days.
The moments leading up to our departure were really hard for me and I even found myself getting a script for anxiety as I was having anxiety attacks the week before hand. Johnny was 8 at the time and I had never been away from him longer then an overnight at Grandma’s house. I was so overwhelmed and pretty sure that the plane was going to crash and burn leaving our children orphans that I even made sure to write a note to both boys before I left and gave out all their important paperwork before I left.
I now look back and can see how absolutely silly that was of me but at the time leaving my children was like losing a limb. As most of you know Hubby and I left to drive down to Fl in the fall and that required us to leave for another five days. While it still completely overwhelmed me I didn’t feel the need to call my doctor or write notes before I left. I called multiple times during the day to check in and give kisses over the phone.
Crazy enough when hubby and I just took a vacation last week just the two of us for six days I was so excited. Sure I balled my eyes out dropping the boys off at school in front of all the Mom’s but that I’ll always do. Once I jumped back into my Jeep I was fine. I was more then fine. I was excited. Just me and Hubby for six days.
We called only once a day to check in on them and one day we didn’t even get to talk to them because Gavin was napping and Johnny was “too busy”. I was okay with that though.
Maybe it’s because my kids are older or because over the past year and half leaving them more often has made it easier but its funny how leaving my kids is no longer a complete meltdown to me. Instead I cherished coming home to find my kids running out the front door to give us hugs and kisses and tell us how much they missed us. In fact I loved that Gavin wouldn’t let me put him down and although my burn made it impossible to hold him without pain I just carried him anyways.

What’s the longest you’ve been away from your children?
Did you do it for personal reasons?

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Jennifer

Motherhood Monday #11 Memorable Moments

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I love to save certain things of the boys. Sometimes too much. When we lost our home to the fire I had tubs and tubs filled with Johnny’s “special” items and artwork. After the fire I started storing it all in an under the bed storage box. Now that Gavin is old enough to start saving items I want to be able to save some great stuff but clearly can’t save everything.
I try to save the milestone items, holiday projects, school projects, and items that are specifically made for Mom.

What do you keep of your child’s?
How do you decide what to keep and what to toss?

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Jennifer